Wednesday, 30 August 2017

Modern Romance - Aziz Ansari // Book Review

I'm not sure how I've managed it, but aside from various clips from Parks and Recreation (which is something I keep wanting to watch but never get round to) this is my first real experience with Aziz Ansari. I've never seen him in anything, never seen any of his standup, and generally don't know anything about him. Maybe it worked out for the best that I went into this book without really knowing Ansari as a comedian, though, because I had absolutely zero expectations going into this and I loved it.

Lately, I've been really craving non-fiction books without really knowing what it was I was looking for. I've got a few non-fiction books in amongst the rest of my ever growing to-be-read piles, but aside from one or two that I'm intentionally putting off reading right now, nothing was really appealing to me. I can't even remember why I thought to reserve this one from the library, but I did, and I ended up reading half of it in one sitting the very first night I had it.

The focus of the book is on how romance, relationships and sex have changed since the mid 20th century, albeit mainly focused on heterosexual, middle class relationships, with considerations of things like online/internet dating, infidelity, casual dating and marriage amongst others (Ansari does explain why the book is primarily about cis/straight relationships). I expected this to be mainly opinions, but it was well researched and must have taken significant work -- there's numerous interviews and group discussions, as well as bringing in research from other people.

Being recently single after a (very) long term relationship, I haven't experienced dating so it was definitely interesting to me to get more of an insight into the dating process, but although dating seems to be the biggest focus it was also interesting to see how society has changed in the last 50-60+ years, such as the shift towards finding that 'perfect' someone, the desire to keep looking instead of settling down with someone 'good enough', and the difference in how relationships develop and work.

Ansari's writing also made the subject even more interesting and engaging, and I'm thinking of buying my own copy of this at some point as I think I'd love to re-read it at different stages in my life, as I'm positive it would be useful to me again and again as life goes on. I'd thoroughly recommend this book to anyone, no matter relationship status, age, or gender, and I'd definitely be interested in reading more on this subject too!

Sunday, 20 August 2017

A Fresh(er) Start

It's been a long time, or it least it feels like it, since I did anything with my blog. I've made a couple of draft reviews in the past 8 weeks or so, but I've just not felt inspired or excited about blogging.

However, having finally got the hang of coding far enough to get everything set up the way I had imagined it, it's time to get back to business! I've also updated the aesthetic a bit (mainly colouring wise) since I was a bit fatigued with the monochrome I had before, and I'm busy thinking about different widgets I might add and planning on some new blog photos to jazz up old posts, to use in new posts, and to improve my existing pages!

I'm also kind of optimistic that I might finally branch back out content wise and post more than book reviews -- probably starting out with a couple of film reviews, since those aren't such a bold step compared to book reviews to begin with, and then some personal 'journal' style posts and opinions!

I don't know if I'll have any kind of schedule going forward (probably not, I've got a terrible habit of throwing myself into something for a week and then losing my way for a while before working back around to something a bit more consistent - see: going to the gym, posting on Instagram, working on my novel, writing short stories, etc, etc, etc!) but I'm hoping that now I've got things looking better, I can get back to work on posting!